Rela Tech ship: She made me realize that good women still exist and that if a woman loves you ehh, your lifespan will increase.

Bambiii and Stefan turned from being just Twitter mutual to lovers. A day before Oscafest, Stefan asked Bambiii out and he has been a proof that tech bros can indeed be romantic and intentional.

Rela Tech ship: is a love story of tech couples by NTBTS where we delve into their relationships, situationships, and maybe some entanglements.

Hi! Please tell us your name and what you do.

Stefan: I am Stephen but popularly known as Stefan; both names mean the same thing. I'm a product designer.

Bambiii: I am Precious Chiamaka, also known as Bambiii. I am a product designer. I am also a fun-loving person who can bring laughter to any situation.

Two designers here, wouldn't this inspire me to start a career in product design, ahh? Let's get a little bit romantic. So where and how did you guys meet?

Stefan: We met on Twitter. The story is quite interesting. So, I was on Twitter one day, and my friend showed me a random profile and asked me to check her out. The funny thing is, he wasn't following her. Her profile was attractive, and I followed her, and she followed back. I was like ah ah, we are getting somewhere with this. The next day, I saw her birthday post and sent her a DM saying happy birthday. She replied and we talked about her day.

I was teasing her about going out to have fun but she said no, she didn't have friends around… That was another green flag. We scheduled a call later that evening and that's how I started asking myself, "Could she be the one?" Because she is too fine, gosh!

Bambiii: So, I got this random birthday text from some guy on my birthday. I didn’t think so much about it because I had tons of messages that day. We jumped on a call later that day because I didn’t really throw a party or bring friends over but damn! bad network happened. So we didn’t speak much. The next day, I randomly stumbled on a picture of this dark, tall, muscular, hot, handsome (the list goes on) looking guy.

It was at that point I knew — ISOLOVAAAAAAAAAAA. That was literally the genesis.

So it's a mutual attraction. This was all online, right? And the first time you met each other physically was at Oscafest?

Stefan: Yes.
Bambiii: How do I even start? It was breathtaking. I felt nervous and at the same time excited. The cutest thing was - he waited outside as soon as my cab arrived at the estate. As soon as I saw him, I just felt this sense of assurance that “damn! I made an amazing choice choosing this man to be mine.”

When you saw each other, what was the impression?

Stefan: I won't lie, I was stunned and starstruck, I could barely speak, I admired an angel as she came down from her Uber, we hugged so tight.

I go love o. How long have you been dating before you finally got to meet each other?

Stefan: We didn't date officially but we talked virtually all the time like we were dating, that was for about 2 months.

Bambiii: Funnily, we always knew we would date at some point but we wanted it to be more intentional and that is him asking me out in person and not over the phone. So a day before Oscafest — He popped the question and it was the most beautiful thing ever. It was a dinner date after we had our meal and were set to leave. He just told me there’s one more thing he needs to do.

A few minutes later, the waiter came with a plate containing chocolates, cake, and an inscription “Will you be my girlfriend?”.

I was thrown off balance!
Really a really memorable day.

Aww, Stefan, wouldn't you consider hosting a bootcamp for tech bros?

Stefan: Lol.

Who is more romantic between the two of you?

Bambiii: Hmmm. Stefan is definitely more romantic. Omo! That man keeps bursting my brain on a daily basis!

Did meeting face-to-face change anything about your connection or how you communicated with each other?

Stefan: Yeah sure, I loved her more ever since. She's been real with me all the time, so beautiful and attractive. Bambiii just made me realize that good women still exist and that if a woman loves you ehh, your lifespan will increase.

Bambiii: Before meeting in person, our communication was solid. We spoke almost every night. Currently, we barely go an hour without communicating, the bond is stronger, and I just love how he always creates time for me from his busy schedule.

Love it for you, Bambiii.

Bambiii: Thanks.

How do you balance work - life - relationships? Because the waters out there is deep and many of us are just struggling ó. Make we no drown.

Stefan: We balance it by sharing our plans with each other, so we are aware of our day-to-day activities.

Since we are product designers, we collaborate on projects, we talk mostly early in the morning and late at night. She most times sends me her designs for review, and we do that over a call.

We organize virtual movie date nights on some weekends.

Bambiii: Well, I believe if you are intentional about something, you will always go the extra mile to make it work. It’s really not easy combining these three factors at the same time. I always make it a point of duty to reach out to my love almost immediately after my morning prayers, then head straight to work.

I would say it’s even a lot easier for us because we are on the same career path—we brainstorm together, get each other's view on a particular work challenge, et al. We are even currently working on different projects together. I’m really excited about the future.

I love the way you love each other, wishing you more joy and soft life together.

Stefan: Thank you, we wish you the same.

Bambiii, What is the project about? How has the experience been?

Bambiii: We're working on two major e-commerce projects. We are co-founders for one, and the other is a freelance gig—my love outsourced it to me.

The experience has been wholesome and an eye-opener.

Stefan is just too good at this design thing, and I am a great thinker. Just imagine the mind-blowing ideas that these two will bring to life. Watch this space!!!

Rooting for you two. What is your key takeaway from Oscafest? Don't say 'each other,' though.

Stefan: Lol.

I know your relationship has evolved since that initial meeting. Are there any plans for the future?

Stefan: Yes, we certainly hope to get married someday, to each other.

Bambiii: Yes. We know there'll be highs and lows, but we've made some rules to help us navigate through the lows.

I’m optimistic about the future and hopeful that we’d achieve milestones together and as individuals.

There's this insider rumor in the tech space that techie people are promiscuous & that we don't do commitments. What do you guys think about it?

Stefan: Yes, Bambiii said this to me and she wasn't wrong, most tech people I know are scared to commit... the last time I dated was 3 years ago.

Everyone is just skeptical about each other.

Bambiii: Hmmm... You see this particular table? I don’t want to be the one to break it

On a serious note, I will say most tech guys are introverts who are socially awkward. So it’s very hard for them to shoot their shots at another — The fear of being rejected. They would rather just remain indoors.

But you see those other ones that are very social. Fear them! Don’t get me wrong, tech guys are the sweetest!

Stefan is great proof that tech folks can be romantic, committed, and intentional.

Spice and sweetness, in the same sentence. Lol. On a scale of 1 - 10, how will you rate your partner?

Stefan: 10/10, she ticks all my boxes.
Bambiii: I will rate him a solid 10.