THROWBACK: We Asked Nigerian Women About Dating Tech Bros

Real stories, honest experiences, and unfiltered opinions from the ladies who've been there

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We've all heard about women's experiences with Yoruba men, but unlike Femi and Yemi the allegations surrounding Naija Tech bros have not been verified. That's why I've taken it upon myself to lead and uncover the truth. Have you ever been with a Naija Tech bro? What was the experience like? Would you recommend it? These ladies shared their stories with us.

Debby.

Tech bros don't like to spend much money and they always act too distant as if they know more about work than anyone else. I guess they mostly work remotely but can't find time for you. Highly not recommended, please.

Angel.

Out of all the partners, situationships, and flings I've had, I must say the best experiences have been with tech bros. Designers and even non-tech in tech. To be fair, I've mostly dated tech bros and people with a background in tech, and I've had both good and bad experiences. But my most memorable sexual and relationship experiences were with men in tech. They do have some issues, and sometimes they tend to be emotionally unavailable. Though, in my experience, they are very generous financially, and quite mature. If you find a tech bro who is present and cares about you, it can be blissful.

Yes, I've been hurt by them, but in my experience, the sweet spot lies with the designers in tech. They are very sweet, nice, and kind. On the other hand, the coders and software guys are the ones who seem emotionally unavailable, but they tend to compensate with money when they see you. Still, I strongly believe that it's a person's character, not their profession, that we should truly look out for. But as a writer, I find that designers in tech match my creativity, and they also earn well. So yes, I would still date them.

Seun

I once dated a software engineer. He was cool and cute, but he takes words to heart too much and was emotionally unstable. Of course, we had plenty of money to spend, it didn't make up for the other aspects that were dear and important to me.

Angela

They are always busy, constantly in meetings, and they leave you hanging, only to come back later and apologize. Their communication is also slow, and they do buy you gifts.

Doris

I dated a Software Engineer who worked in a FinTech company. He was sweet, funny, and oh my god, we bonded so well. We became friends quickly and all that but he had been hurt so many times in the past that it made him insecure, especially because he had money. I genuinely didn't care about his wealth because I'm already financially comfortable. His insecurities spilled into every aspect of our relationship. Even casual mentions of something would trigger him because he had been used in the past. Omo, it was a struggle for me because I'm naturally expressive. Money trauma aside, he was and is an amazing person.

Rosa

Ah, they will not make heaven. Most of them are emotionally unstable and are chronic cheaters.

Layla

My partner is a tech bro, and I've heard good things, but some of them, especially the ones making big bucks, are severely disconnected from the Nigerian experience. If you can't handle that kind of tomfoolery, it can be challenging.

Tabitha

I do not recommend tech bros. As long as I'm in the tech industry, I'd rather date someone in finance, a doctor, or even a CEO. Tech guys tend to be authoritative. I tried to make the relationship work, but it was becoming toxic. Love in the morning, arguing before going to bed. Please, the tech thing gets into their heads and makes them think they are better off than others.

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Lori

They can be very emotionally unavailable and they think everything should be black and white, which is understandable. But relationships don't exactly work like that. It takes a lot of intention from both sides for it to work. But I would not recommend it if you don't have the patience, especially if you as a partner, aren't also in tech or have an equally demanding job. Another factor to consider is not going into it with the mentality of 'He will change.' If he tells you it's FWB (Friends with Benefits), my dear, go there, enjoy your cruise, and come back otherwise, you will see shege.

Precious

They just assume that you should understand everything despite not explaining or communicating effectively. And after some days, they will show up with gifts, asking you what you want, and when you eventually feel like you're having a conversation with someone who is willing to change, boom, he does it again and blames it on work.

Suzzie

The Tech bros are so proud, as if they have the world under their control. I believe you can only enjoy a relationship with a Tech bro if you have a well-paid job like his, and if your job is also demanding.

Rose

With how smart they seem to be in making money moves with tech, you'd think they'd apply the same level of intelligence in navigating relationships.

Grace

Tech bros? Haaa! Only if your peace of mind isn't important to you, especially those upcoming ones that are still doing outsourced jobs.

Leemah

Your eyes will see what your mouth cannot talk, ati upcoming ati original wo all of them Ehh.

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